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首先我要更正一点刚才你用

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到了真理一词但是我并

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没有把阿德勒思想说成是绝对

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不变的真理这就好比是

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在配眼镜很多人通过镜片可以

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开阔视野另一方面也有些人戴上眼镜

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之后视线更加模糊了我并不想

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把阿德勒思想这副镜片强加给

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这些人

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等等您这是在回避问题吧

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不是我这么来回答你阿德勒心理学

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是一种最容易被误解也是最

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难理解的思想那些声称了解阿德勒

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的人大半都误解了他的

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教导他们既没有拿出真正去

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理解的勇气也不想正视阿德勒思想

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背后更广阔的风景

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人们误解了阿德勒

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是的假如有人一接触阿德勒思想便

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立即感激地说活得更加轻松

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了那么这个人一定是大大误解

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了阿德勒因为如果真正理解了阿德勒

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对我们提出的要求那就一定

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会震惊于他的严厉

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您是说我也误解了阿德勒

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就你目前所说过的话

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来看是这样当然也并不是只有你

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这样很多阿德勒信徒阿德勒心理学的实践

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者都是从误解开始慢慢踏上

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理解的阶梯你肯定是还没有

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找到应该继续攀登的阶梯年轻时候

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的我也并不是轻而易举地就找到

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了方向

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噢先生是说您也有过一段迷茫

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的时期

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是的有过

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那么我向您请教一下通往理解

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的阶梯在哪里呢所谓阶梯究竟

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是什么先生又是在哪里寻找到

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的呢

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我很幸运了解阿德勒的时候我

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正作为主夫在家里照看幼小的

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孩子

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怎么回事呢

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通过照看孩子学习阿德勒与孩子一起

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实践阿德勒思想并在这个过程中

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不断加深理解得以确证

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所以我想知道您学到了

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什么又得到了什么样的确证

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一言以蔽之那就是爱

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您说什么

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没必要再重复了吧

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哈哈哈这真是笑话您是说爱

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要了解真正的阿德勒思想就必须

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了解爱

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之所以认为这话可笑是因为你

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还没有了解爱阿德勒所说的

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爱是一个最严肃也最能

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考验人们勇气的课题

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哎总归就是说教式的邻人

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爱吧我根本不想听这个

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这恰恰说明你现在对教育已经

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无计可施对阿德勒思想充满了不信任

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感不仅如此你甚至想大声地

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喊出放弃阿德勒思想你也不要再说了

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你为什么如此气愤呢原本你一定

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感觉阿德勒思想是魔法一样的东西

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挥一挥魔杖所有的愿望瞬间

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实现

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假如是这样的话那你真该早些

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放弃阿德勒思想你应该抛弃之前对

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阿德勒的误解去了解真正的阿德勒

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不是的第一我原本也没有期待阿德勒

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会是什么魔法第二您以前

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应该也这么说过也就是任何人

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都随时可以获得幸福

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是的我的确说过

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您这话本身不就像是

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一种魔法吗您这好比是一边

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忠告人们不要被假币所骗一边

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又让人们持有假币典型的欺诈

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模式

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人人都随时可以获得幸福这并不是

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什么魔法而是非常严肃的事实你

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也好其他什么人也好都可以踏

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出幸福的第一步但是幸福并非一劳永逸

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的事情必须在幸福之路上坚持不懈

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地努力向前这一点我有

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必要指出

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你已经踏出了最初的一

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步踏出了重要的一大步

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但是你不但勇气受挫止步不前

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现在甚至想要半路返回你知道

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这是为什么吗

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您是说我耐力不够吧

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不你尚未做出人生最大的选择

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仅此而已

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人生最大的选择您让我选择

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什么呢

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我刚才已经说过了是爱

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哎呀这种话怎么能让人明白

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呢请您不要用抽象的说辞

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来回避话题

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我是认真的你现在所烦恼的一切都

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可以归结为爱的问题无论是

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教育问题还是你自己人生方向的

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问题都是如此

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好吧这一点似乎有些反驳

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的价值那么在进入正式辩论之前

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我就先说说这个问题先生我

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认为您完全就是当代苏格拉底

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不过并不是在思想方面而是在罪责方面

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罪责

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据说苏格拉底是因为有教唆古

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希腊城邦雅典的年轻人堕落之嫌

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才获判死罪的吧并且他

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制止了要助其越狱的弟子

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们服毒自尽这岂不是很有

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意思依我看在这座古都

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宣扬阿德勒思想的您也犯了

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同样的罪过也就是巧言迷惑不谙世事

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的年轻人教唆他们堕落

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你是说自己被阿德勒思想蒙蔽

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而堕落了

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所以才再次造访做一个了断并且

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我不想再有更多的受害者这次

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一定要从思想上打败您

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夜已经深了

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但是今晚黎明之前一定要做一个

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了结也没有必要反复来访了究竟

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是我登上理解的阶梯抑或是

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击碎你十分珍视的所谓阶梯

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彻底抛弃阿德勒思想两者之中必择

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其一没有折中的结果

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明白了这将会是最后的对话吧

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不好像你势必要让其成为

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最后的对话